A few weeks ago, I found myself in a deeply frustrating situation at work. It started with a confrontation over an unreasonable deadline. I knew it wasn’t realistic and stated clearly when I could deliver. Instead of being heard, my vacation time was threatened, and the issue was escalated to my manager. My manager, rather than addressing the root of the problem, stepped in to “fix” things in a way that bypassed my concerns entirely.

I felt angry. I felt dismissed. I felt invisible.

Still, I took my vacation. I knew I needed the time to regroup and reflect. What came next was completely unexpected.

Using a self-coaching method, I began unpacking why this situation had affected me so deeply. I realized it wasn’t just about the deadline or my manager’s reaction. This conflict had triggered something much older: a childhood trauma I thought I had already dealt with.

As a survivor of molestation, I grew up carrying a profound sense of responsibility for situations beyond my control. Like so many survivors, I internalized a message that I had to make myself smaller, quieter, more agreeable—to become invisible—to avoid conflict and stay safe. Even as an adult, this pattern would creep into my professional and personal life, influencing how I reacted to challenges.

This realization hit me hard. I thought I’d healed this part of myself, but there it was, showing up again, dictating how I responded to stress and conflict. The truth was, I’d been unconsciously defaulting to invisibility as a way of navigating the world.

But here’s the good news: this awareness became my breakthrough.

Through the support of my personal network, I was able to process the situation and validate my feelings. For the first time, I saw how invisibility was holding me back—not just at work but in other areas of my life.

And I realized I didn’t want to live that way anymore.

What I truly want is to be visible, playful, and light. I want to show up fully as myself in every area of my life. This shift started with one simple but powerful question:
“What would a visible, playful, and light woman do?”

This question has become my guidepost. It’s helped me approach challenges differently and create space for joy and authenticity. Whether it’s setting boundaries at work, pursuing a passion project, or simply showing up in relationships, this new perspective has opened doors I didn’t even realize were closed.

As I’ve embraced this journey, I’ve started to wonder: how many other people out there are struggling with visibility?

It’s easy to let old patterns, fears, or traumas dictate how we show up in the world. Sometimes we hide without even realizing it—thinking it’s safer, easier, or more acceptable. But the truth is, hiding robs us of the chance to live authentically and fully.

So I want to ask you:

• Are there areas in your life where you feel invisible?
• If you could choose to be someone different—someone more aligned with your true desires—what would that look like?

If this resonates with you, I want you to know you’re not alone. It’s never too late to rewrite the story of how you show up in the world.

For me, the journey started with acknowledging the pattern of invisibility and committing to a new way of being. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

If you’re ready to explore what visibility could look like in your own life, I’d love to support you. I’m offering a free discovery session, where we can dive into your unique challenges and help you start creating the life you truly want.

Click here to book your session and take the first step toward being visible, playful, and light.

Let’s choose to shine together. 💖